closerfolk.Know the agreement before you look
Discuss what is open, what is private, what needs advance discussion and what is not allowed. A vague arrangement is difficult for everyone involved.
Do not use a new match to resolve uncertainty with an existing partner. Work that out before bringing someone else into the situation.
Disclose without oversharing
Say enough for a potential match to make an informed decision about the relationship structure. You do not need to publish private details about a partner who is not participating.
Do not imply that a partner has agreed when they have not. Honesty protects every person’s consent.
Respect separate boundaries
An agreement with a primary partner does not replace the boundaries of a new connection. Each person can set their own pace and limits.
If assumptions conflict, pause rather than expecting another person to adapt to an unspoken rule.